On false modesty and Ego “Am I Egotisical??”
When being described in text I commonly get described as either an “enigma” or an “egoist”. The first description I find rather flattering, the second one disturbs we somewhat, because I know a lot of egotistical people, and I would hate to be put in that bag. I can hear you laughing already as you read this because outwardly I know to a lot of people I appear the most egotistical of them all. Self confidence is something to be proud of, faith in your own music your own art is essential if you’re going to max out three credit cards to go on tour, but I know artists who are truly narcissistic and they are fucking scary.
I have an old friend, who lately has taken less of a liking towards me, I can’t think of what I’ve done, but I am stuck with this idea that he’s angry with me. I asked another close friend, why he might be angry with me, she said “You know, that whole egoist thing you portray, it pisses people off”.
Please don’t get me wrong I really like pissing people off, always have, developed the habit in school. I like to twist that common held social morals and codes, I hate falsehoods and I love to play with them and expose them for my own amusement. I often play a charter to the world that isn’t entirely me, and I don’t care if people don’t like me for it, but it gets me down when effects my friendships. I suppose I expect people who know me personally should know better.
One of the particularly Australian social codes, that has always got up my nose, is “false modesty,” and for that reason when I decided that I wanted to be an artist in high school, I also decided that for the sake of my own entertainment, I was going to drop all modesty.
So yes the veil is revealed, and a lot of the time I am fucking with you. (Sorry)
As I developed into a musician over my other loves art and film, I noticed false modesty rained supreme in music, further Australian music. Is there any way in hell you would get on stage if you were faithless in your work? For those of you who have trouble dealing with public speaking, playing front man is a reverse on the whole “imagine the whole audience is naked” idiom.
“I don’t believe in my work but I literally have sacrificed everything to get my music to various stages around the world”
It just doesn’t cut it in my mind. Does it make sense to any of you?
I get modesty, I understand knowing that you’ve still got along way to go, and if you were going to get the DVD of my life in the “behind the scenes” you would see my tuning my voice for hours a day and practicing guitar, and researching my favorite artists trying to become the best I can be. I just see a contradiction in terms, being publicly self depreciating, and at the same time promoting yourself.
This ideal has me placed as someone who believes in there work totally (which is true to a degree, and at the same time completely false, [("duality" look it up!)] ) And has me labeled as egoistical. “Brisbane’s primarie Egoist” my publicist tyler coined the phase, and I liked it at first, because the Ed around the house who cleans up the dog poo, isn’t the “Edward Guglielmino” you see in public.
Even writing this short is egotistical, but aren’t we all in the same bag with our various status updates and tweet pics, I mean every one of us is now famous to a degree, publishing nonsense like.

Okay she’s famous, but you get the idea, but why should I suffer when everyone is just as bad? Why does my friend not like me anymore, because of the ideas I portray on twitter? I’ve never understood social morals and codes, which is probably the real reason why old mate has the shits, maybe I should ask him why. I guess I am loosing my point, only to ask. Am I really any more egotistical than you???

Ed,
Everyone is born egotistical by default. It is our ego that divides us from others and keeps us feeling separate instead of connected. Learning to live from the heart rather than from our head/ego takes decades and possibly lifetimes. You are not more egotistical than me, or your “friend” for that matter. You are just more open with your ego. As you said, you don’t hide it behind false modesty and that is admirable. But don’t be surprised when certain people take offence to it, especially when you delight in rubbing a truth they would prefer not to see in their face. Egoism is not attractive and it never will be. But the first step towards its inevitable demise is the painful acknowledgement of its existence. As you have recognised, false modesty is only denial of the truth. How are you working towards finding the place beyond ego/your true self? The answer to that question is much more valuable than “why are people troubled by my ego/false self”. And when you get there, can you come back and show me the way?
Much love,
Cam.